This is a simple way to answer the question “What’s the difference between managing and leading?”
If your boss exhibits these behaviours, know that your boss is a manager not a leader. This is how managers behave.
1. They don’t ask for their teammates’ opinions before making decisions. They do not dare to share their authority with anyone. They believe their authority to make decisions without asking for input is the source of their power.
2. They do not acknowledge their employees for their effort or accomplishments. They are afraid to thank and recognize their teammates because they need to keep the unequal power relationship intact.
3. They cannot be wrong. Even when everybody knows the manager is wrong, no one will say it because of the force field around the manager. They pretend the manager is not wrong and the manager pretends to believe it, too.
4. They cannot handle dissent or even polite debate.
5. They can only take advice from their subordinates when they are behind closed doors with one person.
6. They do not allow their employees to interact with higher-level managers for fear that a higher-up leader might trust their team member’s advice more than their own.
7. They do not stand up for their team members when they could. They will not spend political capital on anyone except themselves.
8. They don’t give their teammates visibility into the future, even when it would help the employee and the company to do so. They have taken the adage “Knowledge is power” to heart. They hoard whatever information they acquire, and dole it out in tiny doses.
9. They discount any information or feedback that feels threatening to their political status. When they say “I’ll take that idea under advisement” they want to shut you up. They have no intention of considering your idea.
10. They are more concerned about maintaining whatever status, prestige or organizational power they have accumulated than in doing the best thing for the organization.
How do fearful managers keep their jobs? They keep their jobs because they deliver one kind of business result — the numeric kind — for a limited period of time.
They deliver that result by managing through fear.
Over time, a fear-based manager will fail because they have no credibility. No one trusts them.
Fear is a good motivator in the short term but useless over the long term as person after person realizes that the little-tin-god manager has very limited power over them.
If your manager is stuck in fear, your first assignment is to start building an escape hatch.
Life is long, but it’s still too short to waste your time and talent working for someone who doesn’t deserve you!




















